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Signs You Married Your Best Friend

 

At this point, it’s so overused that it’s basically a cliché to say, “I married my best friend.” Cliché aside, calling someone your partner sounds wonderful, but it becomes even more enjoyable when that person is also your best friend. In other words, being married to your best friend makes life so much more fun and beautiful! Is your husband/Wife your best friend? Let’s find out. 

 

– You’ve got your own secret language

 

Anyone in a relationship or around one long enough soon realises there are times couples speak their own secret language. A private vocabulary that makes no sense to anyone around, in other instances, words aren’t necessary at all. Sometimes adopting each other’s mannerisms and quirks, the weird nicknames and special words you have for each other, when what you’re saying doesn’t entirely make sense but you both understand each other perfectly, how when you say “I love you” with just a look, and all this eventually develops into a dialect of your own. 

 

– You know them better than you know yourself

 

Your husband/wife is with you all the time, even when you’re not together. Hard times happen, even in the healthiest, happiest marriages, you can tell just by the look on their face when they’ve had a bad day, you can read them like a book as well and being able to finish each other’s’ sentences is no big deal to you guys.

 

– You always make each other laugh

 

You two find each other the funniest human beings on earth. You have the same sense of humour, which makes being together so fun. You both have a whole docket of inside jokes that you find pee-in-your-pants hilarious.

 

– You Argue a lot but your arguments never last long

 

 You may argue with your best friend, you snap at each other over stupid things, but at the end of the day you know deep down that you will work through it and forgive each other. You value each other too much to let something get in the way of your friendship.

 

– They’re the first person you call for every little thing

 

You never run out of things to talk about. Despite the fact that you know pretty much everything there is to know about each other, and see each other almost constantly, you always have something new to talk about, and you can keep the conversation going for hours. When you get good news or bad news, read something interesting, hear something ridiculous, or see the most hilarious, “that is so true” quotes on Instagram you just want to share it with your partner. Even if you break a nail you would call them up and tell them what happened, why it happened and how it happened. 

 

– You know there’s no one else better for you

 

Whatever happens, good or ugly, you know they’ll always be there. Nothing matters more to him than you. You are his whole life and the centre of his universe and vice versa. He’ll love you exactly the same in both sweatpants and heels. You have the luxury of friendship and love all in one person. And you can’t imagine life without them.

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Unique ideas To Coordinate Your Men At Your Reception

 

 

Sup Men, your best friend is getting married isn’t he? he’s leaving the gang, it’s a sad day but it’s also a happy one. We’re sure you’re all really excited for him. And if you’re a man from the bride’s side well, I’m sure you’re all excited for her too. Regardless, the girls always get more attention than the guys. Let’s face it, guys usually go with the wind, but that doesn’t mean a little creativity hurts, right, after all, you want them to know whose side you’re from. And future bride and groom take note, here’s how you can bedazzle your bridesmaids and groomsmen for your wedding.

 

Bow Ties 

 

Yup it’s that simple, matching bow ties. Now you can get super funky with this, you don’t have to opt for a solid colour option, play around, polka dots, patterns, so many options, you can even get custom ones made. Regardless of what you decide matching bowties are a good way to go.

 

Suspenders

 

Same as the bowties, suspenders are another way you can coordinate your men. Now most of the times you might not see the suspenders if they’re wearing a suit, but maybe you don’t have to have them come in suits, again you can get funky, why do all Mehndis have Shalwaar kameezes, why can’t they wear a shirt, pants and some funky suspenders. And even if it’s a formal event they will eventually take off their jackets when eating food right?

 

Identical themed Cuff-links

 

Yes, yes a lot of identical themed stuff going on here, but men have limited options when compared to women. Themed Cufflinks, that’s as straight as we can get with you, we remember a co worker was a huge Batman fan, you know what his boys did? Batman cufflinks. Yup, its nerdy, geeky, but boy did they pull it off, and it actually look really good.so give it a thought

 

Same sock 

 

So we all know how crazy socks are these days, right? Well same bow ties, same suspenders, same cufflinks, why not same socks. I mean hey, might as well right. If you’re matching everything, might as well go with the socks too right. 

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Signs Your Relationship Is Strong Enough to Get Engaged

 

So you’re in love and you believe you found “the one.” If only you could read your partner’s mind!

 

Along your journey of love, you have finally come across your soul mate, and the universe has conspired to bring the two of you together. The length of the relationship doesn’t matter because it’s about the bond between the couple. Now the universe is giving you signs that maybe it’s time to seal the deal, to be the peanut butter to her jelly, the cheese to her pizza, to be the key for her lock. 

 

It doesn’t feel scary 

 

For many people, the idea of marriage is scary, the very idea of being bound to a single person for the rest of your life is a thought not many can stomach. For some it’s taking the responsibility of another person, and for others it’s whether you think someone else can accept you for who you are. However as with many fears it is just that, a state of the mind. However, once you find your person, that fear goes away. So when that happens and trust us that will, well that’s the universe telling you to go for it. So if you like it, then you should put a ring on it……uh uh oh oh uh uh oh.

 

You’re at Your Most Comfortable with Them

 

This is a sure fire sign, if you and your partner are comfortable around each other, and i mean comfortable to a point where you can say or do anything around them and not feel weird or awkward then it’s time to get engaged. After all you’re going to be spending your life with this person, do you really want to be with someone who will make you self conscious if they are around you? 

 

Your Communication Is In Great Shape

 

As they say communication is key. It’s one of the most integral parts to a relationship. A lot of married couples have trouble communicating with each other, but if you and your partner are able to talk about anything and everything and are able to communicate with each other freely about your problems then trust us, you should cherish that person because that is a sign that tells you that not only will there be lesser misunderstandings between the two of you, it will also most likely play a huge role in keeping the two of you together and happy.

 

You’ve Hit Rough Spots—And Gotten Through Them

 

All couples hit rough spots, however not everyone gets out of them. Not everyone has the stamina and patience to endure the hardship. Many simply call it quits. It’s just human nature, humans tend to avoid things and situations that are unpleasant for them. However, it is exactly those difficult situations that will dictate how your partner will react if you hit a rough spot. This could be anything from jealousy, misunderstandings, financial issues, long distance. However, if you get through it and your bond becomes stronger through the process, then you know that in the future should you hit a rough spot again you know you’ll make it through. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, its compromise, it helps move us along. Yes, we quoted maroon 5.you got a problem?

 

People Are Asking

 

People are very perceptive, yes sometimes they are wrong in coupling two people when they might just be really good friends, however if people know two people are together and they keep asking when you two will tie the knot, they do that because they see the chemistry. Some are just really nosy, and some might even say it as a taunt…. BUT!!! If people are asking it’s because they really think that you should end up together.

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Asking for your partner’s hand in marriage is one of the biggest moments in your life. With such a big moment headed your way, you want to make sure you’re best prepared, after all you want your partner to know you’ve put a considerable amount of thought into this. 

Now we don’t mean, bending down and going on one knee, after all that’s so cliché, its 2019 ya’ll, get on with the times. See everyone does that, but wouldn’t you rather give your partner a proposal he or she will remember? One that they will look back on fondly every time they take a trip down memory lane? Of course you would! 

I mean you only get married once right? Hopefully. 

Well then let’s get started.

 

The Photo-booth Proposal

Now you know and we know that the best time to surprise anyone is when they’re least expecting it. After all who in their right mind will expect a marriage proposal in the middle of a photo booth / shoot session. 

You press the start button and as the booth takes click and snaps your impromptu photo-shoot where your making funny faces imagine the look on her face when you bust out that box and pop it open and BAM, the machine has done its job, capturing the moments before during and after that ring has been busted out. Now that sir is candid.

 

Destination proposal

Now we all know about a destination wedding, but how about a destination proposal, planning a trip with your soul mate. The two of you alone? Check! Beautiful place? Check! Romantic mood! Check. Ring? Check. Yes? You know it brother. 

 

Facebook live

Are you the type that would ask for your partner’s hand in marriage in public? In Front of a large crowd? Well in that case Facebook live is perfect for you. Make sure you know where the love of your life is, go live, walk right up to her and ask her to marry you. If she says yes, then mission accomplished. If she says no well, let’s just hope not too many people were watching your live stream. 

 

Instagram Anniversary Proposal

Since we’re talking about Facebook live and what not, here’s another social media proposal idea.

Remember the day you guys made it official? Well, wait for that date to come on a few minutes before the clock strikes 12 upload 9 Instagram posts of one picture that says “Will you marry me?” super imposed on a picture of the both of you. And then wait for her call or for her to comment. 

 

The Old Fashioned Way

Forget everything, have your mom call her mom. Don’t tell you Phupos because we know the humans in snake skin. At this point you want to stay away from “Nazar”.

Now imagine her reaction when her mom goes up to her and says ”Call ayi thi ’….’ ammi kii. ” That’s sure to get her heart racing. Maybe that’s how it should be done instead of the mentioned Yahoodi tricks to charm your woman.

 

Bonus- idea:  Place the damn ring in a box of chicken nuggets from McDonald’s sprinkle it with fries. And you, sir, are now engaged, congratulations! If she loves to eat that’s a definite YES! 

 

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Post event anxiety or stress is normal because we always have a vision in our minds of how something will go and of course, it never quite matches up. While many newlyweds are blissed out, others are hit with the post-wedding blues, and it can be debilitating. Big life changes — even positive ones like an engagement, or marriage, can trigger stress, anxiety and other negative emotions. 

The important part is to examine your feelings and make sure the anxiety is about the Event and not your new spouse. As a bride or groom, you are facing a difficult adjustment period in the first year, and the “post-wedding stress” just doesn’t make it any easier. Good news. This effect is temporary. Life will soon return to normal, and with it, your perspective and humor. 

The key to avoiding the post-wedding blues is organization; the more prepared you are, the less you’ll suffer afterwards. 

 

– It is not unusual to feel down after the intense planning and preparations – and being the focus of attention. Suddenly, it’s all over. There’s no use stressing about it. Remind yourself how well you’ve done, even if everything doesn’t quite go to plan. Holding on to some perspective helps to lessen the post-wedding blues. Go do couple things… You’re married now, so go out as a married couple. Discover new things together, be proactive, not depressed.

 

– The psychological transition you’re making from single woman to married woman can sometimes be overwhelming. In order to grow into the new lifestyle and identity as a married person, you must shed the old identity as single. Your hormones and psychology may flail slightly given the emotional height of the day and the big commitment you’ve made, but it’s usually nothing to worry about. Share it with other newly weds. Search for other recently married women who may have the same feelings of the “after-wedding blues.”

 

– You’re not as occupied anymore, the wedding sucked up a lot of time. And now you suddenly have your evenings free. All the stress of planning—or putting up with your fiancée’s planning, now you don’t have all that to do so you’re bored. And boredom leads to depression. Get involved with something new. Discover a new passion, and dive in headfirst.

 

– Recognise that your wedding isn’t the same as your marriage. You should accept that you’re going to get back to a different ‘normal’ & marriage is life-changing. But when you think about the lovely and loving reasons that brought you here, you should feel better almost immediately. You just have to remember that you had a beautiful wedding day and focus on the next positive thing in your life! Your married life. Sticking to the positive will help you more than you expect. you expect.

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Its that time alright. You’ve fought long and hard, you’ve kept secrets from your khandaan, escaped the eyes of Pakistani TV media personalities and now you’re here. It was a long and arduous journey till the baat pakki and now your wedding day is upon you. Surely by now you must have learned it’s never going to be easy. Woh toh bus shuruwaat thi.

However, that’s not to say everyone has it rough, not every family is opposed to a love marriage or more specifically the guy/girl of your choice, and even smoother is an arranged marriage. Yes, you might cry yourself to sleep because you couldn’t marry the guy/girl you wanted but it’s ok, kyun k family bohat achi hai aur paisa bohath hai. That’s sure to soothe the pain, because when you have problems throw money at it. 

Coming back to the topic at hand, your wedding is coming up! Get ready to deal with lots of problems because arranging a wedding is no easy task. Here’s something you might face

 

Food/Catering

We’re going to start off by listing the most important problem in this article. Food.

Why? Because more than the bride and the groom, this is what’s going to be talked about on your wedding and after. We all know people who only go to weddings for the food. I mean it’s the only time where you get to go on an all you can eat buffet. Nobody wants to hear the khana acha nahi tha. So the majority of your time is going to be spent finding the right caterer, because not every dish on the menu is going to win awards. Someone’s kebabs might be really good but biryani a disappointment, where as someone might do the karahi really well, but totally mess up the paye.

And more than other people, it’s your own family you fear the most, because their approval is what you’re yearning for. I mean will you settle to hear the words ”oh god, the food was very average, so much tael, not like our shaguftah wedding haan. Chalo not everyone can afford good caterers.”

 

The Missing Invite

God forbid if you don’t deliver a wedding card personally all hell will break loose. 2019 folks, you can’t just send a digital invite on “the what’s up”, that’s so rude. No no no, you have to personally go to deliver printed invitation to everyone. You have to DHL or TCS the invite if a rishtedar is living abroad, I mean if you can’t go on a flight and personally deliver it to them, then this is the least you can do. However, If you forget to send it to anyone, consider bonds being broken, family members gossiping about you, tarnishing your reputation.

“Did you know shagufta ki shaadi hai, usnay card bhi nahi bheja, i had to hear it from my daughter that there’s a Facebook group asking her to save the date. I mean what nonsense.”

“Ithni to tameez hothi, k card dede, matlab shaadi hain, khud ki phupo ko bhool jatha hai koi? Anyway i hope the food is good.”

These are the people that don’t understand that with so much planning sometimes a person genuinely forgets. So if you find anything less than a 1000 rupee note in one of the envelopes you can be rest assured it’s from someone whom you forgot to give the card to. 

 

Larka Kaun Hai?

See it doesn’t matter how much you love him, it doesn’t matter, arranged or love, doesn’t matter if your family approves or disapproves, but the rest of the world only cares about the larka. Your phupos, the auntie’s your mom’s friends with, even your friends mother, they want to know. Here’s a little idea as to how” the larka kaun hai?” conversation goes down.

 

Aunty: So Farida what news, how’s everything?

Mom: bus our Aneela is getting married, abhi uski baath paki hoi hai

Aunty (eyebrows raised, eyes popping out of her sockets) : ohhh achaa, wow congratulations , bohath boahth mubarak  – translation (tumhari beti ko larka mil gaya? Meri beti ko kyun nahi mila abhi koi?)

Mom: haan last week hi hui thi.

Aunty: ohh acha, how lovely, waisay larka kaun hai? – translation (is he moneyed? Ghar kithna bara hai? Passport hai? Influential family? Job kiya kartha hai? Settled hai?

Mom:  oh very nice boy, Aneela ki class mai tha

Aunty (doesn’t know how to maintain smile): oh achaa. Chalo Allah khush rakhay.

Now this conversation will be repeated many times, and the majority of the times it will be repeated with a third person most probably between two aunties. And believe you me a lot will be said and discussed.

 

The Jewellery 

You need the right jewellery for your wedding dress, after all the heavy jora you’ve spent thousands on isn’t going to cut it, you need to accessorise it with jewellery. Your mom in law might want you to wear the necklace she wore on her wedding day, maybe your mom wants to do the same. Who do you make happy? However, you see that doesn’t matter because regardless of what you wear and how much you wear, all people are interested in is whether its real or not, and how much it costs.

 

Unnecessary Advice

People love giving advice, maybe it’s because they genuinely want to help but for a new bride and groom it may well be completely unnecessary. After all, it’s not like what happened to you might happen to them. And mostly this advice always comes from relatives, they want to share their expertise on the matter, because obviously once you’re married you know everything about marriages. What they don’t realise is this can be extremely daunting for a new couple, especially if it’s arranged. Like no Beenish aunty I don’t want to know if it’s advisable to eat spicy food the day before your wedding. After all who can eat with all that mehndi on your hands anyway.

 

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Asking for your partner’s hand in marriage is one of the biggest moments in your life. With such a big moment headed your way, you want to make sure you’re best prepared, after all you want your partner to know you’ve put a considerable amount of thought into this. 

Now we don’t mean, bending down and going on one knee, after all that’s so cliché, its 2019 ya’ll, get on with the times. See everyone does that, but wouldn’t you rather give your partner a proposal he or she will remember? One that they will look back on fondly every time they take a trip down memory lane? Of course you would! 

I mean you only get married once right? Hopefully. 

Well then let’s get started.

 

The Photo-booth Proposal:

Now you know and we know that the best time to surprise anyone is when they’re least expecting it. After all who in their right mind will expect a marriage proposal in the middle of a photo booth / shoot session. 

You press the start button and as the booth takes click and snaps your impromptu photo-shoot where your making funny faces imagine the look on her face when you bust out that box and pop it open and BAM, the machine has done its job, capturing the moments before during and after that ring has been busted out. Now that sir is candid.

 

Destination proposal:

Now we all know about a destination wedding, but how about a destination proposal, planning a trip with your soul mate. The two of you alone? Check! Beautiful place? Check! Romantic mood! Check. Ring? Check. Yes? You know it brother. 

 

Facebook live:

Are you the type that would ask for your partner’s hand in marriage in public? In Front of a large crowd? Well in that case facebook live is perfect for you. Make sure you know where the love of your life is, go live, walk right up to her and ask her to marry you. If she says yes, then mission accomplished. If she says no well, let’s just hope not too many people were watching your live stream. 

 

Instagram Anniversary Proposal:

Since we’re talking about Facebook live and what not, here’s another social media proposal idea.

Remember the day you guys made it official? Well, wait for that date to come on a few minutes before the clock strikes 12 upload 9 Instagram posts of one picture that says “Will you marry me?” super imposed on a picture of the both of you. And then wait for her call or for her to comment. 

 

The Old Fashioned Way:

Forget everything, have your mom call her mom. Don’t tell you Phupos because we know the humans in snake skin. At this point you want to stay away from “Nazar”.

Now imagine her reaction when her mom goes up to her and says ”Call ayi thi ’….’ ammi kii. ” That’s sure to get her heart racing. Maybe that’s how it should be done instead of the mentioned Yahoodi tricks to charm your woman.

 

Bonus- idea:  Place the damn ring in a box of chicken nuggets from McDonalds sprinkle it with fries. And you, sir, are now engaged, congratulations! If she loves to eat that’s a definite YES! 

 

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Usually before you decide to find the right partner, you should first work on recognising yourself. Take time and go through life and its experiences to know yourself better and figure out what you value. Unfortunately, the middle-class ‘DESI’ society that most of us were raised in does not believe in such a journey. For us, pleasing the Phopos, Khalas, Mamis, Chachis, Uncle jees, Aunty jees and Bhabi jees, and their Khatirdaari is more important than anything else. And for these Aunty jees the pressure they put on us to get married is unexplainable. Not just the pressure, there is no shortage of advice for single women, most of which is utter nonsense, whether it’s from one of your Phopo or the ‘Rishta wali Aunty’ you met at some “cousin ki shaadi.” 

 

No matter who you’re getting it from, here are things so many single women are tired of hearing:

 

You’re 25-year-old” still unmarried

It’s okay if a girl has passed the “25-year-old” limit and is still unmarried. It’s not a curse, stop acting like she’s cursed.

 

I had 2 kids when I was your age

Too bad your parents forced you into an early marriage. Stop bragging about it.

 

A career is good, but when do you plan on settling down? Uh.

Whenever you stop asking me that question.

Time and again, We’ve all had friends, relatives, neighbours, and even acquaintances ask us and our parents this question. Every woman should become financially and emotionally independent before deciding to get married but they don’t care, since they are going to pay our bills once we settle down.

 

Please let me set you up, I know the perfect person for you!

Maybe I don’t want to be with anyone now because of you, or maybe each time you ask me a guy mysteriously finds a reason not to date me.

 

Don’t worry, it’ll happen.

I know it will! STOP REMINDING ME THAT over and over and over and over and over again.

 

Take time to work on yourself first.

Excuse me? Is there something wrong with me? I’m pretty sure I’m already fabulous.

 

Don’t you want to have a baby?

Maybe I do, Maybe I don’t. How is that even your problem?

 

You don’t know what you’re missing.

Really? Pretty sure the neighbours heard how loud you were when you had a fight with your husband last week.

 

Don’t Be So Picky!

Being picky and having a type are two different things which you obviously won’t get since you married your “Taya ka beta” and had no choice but to decide either.

 

The Clock’s Ticking…

Yeah you’re right I’m 25 and I can feel my ovaries shrinking already!

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The foundation to a flawless wedding day beauty look? Perfect skin. 

For every bride, her wedding day is of course a huge deal. After all, you know that you are going to be the centre of attention. For most brides-to-be, one of the biggest concerns is getting the perfect makeup and getting the perfect look on your most important day, but trust me, if your skin isn’t clean and healthy no amount of expensive foundation can make blotchy, tired skin look good.

Here are a few tips that will help you get that glowing skin before wedding.

Cleanse your Skin

The first and the most important thing to do is to go to bed with a clean face. It starts with the basics and the foundation to great skin is cleansed skin. In the mornings, use a good cleanser that is suited for your skin type followed by a good moisturiser, also, exfoliate your skin at least thrice a week.

Diet

Every bride wants to look and feel best on her big day, that doesn’t mean you should go crazy with the pre-wedding diet and weight loss, instead, just focus on developing healthy eating habits without going insane. Just Avoid processed food, limit or eliminate foods with added sugar and give up refined and starchy carbohydrates like white bread or white rice.

Exercise

When you sweat, you allow your body to flush out all the impurities. If you don’t have an exercise plan in place, don’t worry. Just try to get some physical activity every day. This might include a brisk walk, a short jog, or a home strength training workout.

Detox Juices

Love them, hate them, or fear them but detox juices can help you hit the reset button. 

Most vegetables and fruits contain fibre and other essential nutrients that help flush out the toxins that affect your overall skin and hair health.

Drink water

By now you’ve probably heard about the importance of drinking water and staying hydrated for your overall health and wellness. No matter what your skin type is—oily, dry, normal or a combo— it craves water. Hydration is the key! Aside from keeping you healthy and hydrated, extra perks of hydration include energy boosts and skin health as well.

Additional tip’

A desi totka our Dadis and Nanis used for Beautiful Skin…

Basin and Haldi

Whether it was to cure suntan, acne, dry skin or oily skin, Basin and Haldi used to be the face mask our dadis, nanis and moms used. Basin acts as a cleansing agent for the skin and haldi has a moisturising effect. All you need to do is to mix the two and apply it all over your body and keep it for five minutes. Multani mitti can also be used for body glow. 

 

 

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